126. How do You Create Your Boundaries?

Discussion centered on boundaries in the last blog. Boundaries are a crucial part of you as they define your personality. They show you and others what you take responsibility for.

Boundaries allow others to see how near they can come to you or to your loved ones, how they can connect with you and for how long. Boundaries show where and what they can do or say, and how long and who they are dealing with. Boundaries define who you are and who you are not. Knowing this part of yourself and your responsibilities gives you clarity and freedom. Symptoms such as depression, anxiety, eating or panic disorders, addictions and shame are a result of a life without boundaries.

Galatians 6:7-8 states "Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life." What this strong verse means is to have full responsibility for all your words and actions. You and I are simply expected to deal with all of our feelings, actions, behaviors and attitudes. God gave them to each one of us. It takes effort and responsibility to fulfill this task.

Boundaries keep the good stuff in and take the bad stuff out. The whole concept comes from God's nature. 1 John 4:16 teaches "and we have known and believed the love God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God and God in him." This means boundaries came from the Bible. We are like He is, after all, Gen. 1:26: "Then God said, 'Let us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.'"

We need to develop boundaries, like God has. More on the next blog.