38. Serving a God of Second Chances
Do you live with shame? How about guilt? When and where does it occur for you? Both of those issues are mixed with trust. Those who trust will never be put to shame. That He alone is my rock and my Savior. These are big words and easy to write. Very difficult to do.
Let's talk about the word shame and its roots. As an example, think about Poplar trees, which are highly common in this country. Some of the trees are very tall. In order for the tree to be strong, it needs to have roots. The length and size of the tree is the same as the length and size of the root system. Now, imagine a root system that gets hurt; through construction or existing buildings this can easily happen. The tree does not grow healthy, is likely weakened; root system can be rotted and can even die. It may look great and yet it is damaged inside. This analogy is like the root system of a child growing up. Through the abuse of the child, a part is damaged and weakened and requires healing in order to grow. Everything looks good on the outside and yet the child is damaged on the inside. Many grow up in bitterness and shame in a destructive lifestyle. Some choose to heal! If interested, please look for the previous blogs on Adverse Childhood Experiences, ACEs.
Long ago, somewhere else, a family with two siblings came to the emergency department of a sexual assault center. Their courageous parents were with them. The mother stated about incest that was endured by these two by their father, who was seated beside them. They reached out for help. It was desperately needed to prevent further damage from occurring. The roots of shame had taken a firm hold of all of them. Self-loathing was present. Supporting the children, while learning invaluable skills in the process, became a role and a mandate which shaped me to understand their profound hurts in a tangible way. Unforgettable.
Now, imagine the damaged roots, guilt and shame in that family? Perhaps some akin to your family? It doesn't need to be like this example, even though it grabbed your attention. The kind of shame discussed brings in so much destruction and brokenness it can take a life-time to heal. Healing begins only when healthy actions follow. Perseverance and inner restoration occurs.
What I learned in my role was don't go to man directly as a replacement for God. Man is helpful. God is the King, Creator and Judge. He often assigns a person who can act, speak and heal through Him. It is wise to pray and ask Him for help and direction. It's crucial to find the right support and assistance for your inner healing. After all, you are in charge of all of your actions, behaviors and the outcomes of them. Romans 14:12 "so then each of us shall give account of himself to God." When you are accountable, then you are strong. Romans 16:20 "and the God of peace will crush Satan under your feet shortly." It means, whether you are the one who hurts or the hurting one, the help is available. The restorative and healing part of this is the reality that you and I serve a God of second chances.
Serving a God of second chances means He is waiting for you to understand the causes of your hurts and bring your hurts and your pain to Him in a responsible manner. Your own acknowledgement of the hurts you caused or experienced allows the Father then to give you a choice to bring healing to others or be healed yourself. Isaiah 40:31 "but those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint."
I have had many second chances. Trauma, abuse and assaults shaped me to be a 'rotten root inside a tree.' Your experiences are different than mine and they have caused you deep wounds. The pain is what we all share. The healing is something we all have in common. It is a choice the Father urges us to take. Psalm 33:20-21 "our soul waits for the Lord; He is our helper and our shield. For our hearts rejoice in Him, because we have trusted in His Holy name." We cannot do it alone. Please connect through the Facebook or the offered website. Blessings, resilient over-comer! If you enjoyed the blog, please like or share this page. Comments are appreciated!